What can I do?
Choose a time and place where the other person is relaxed and not intoxicated. It is better to ask a question than to make a statement. In this way you avoid appearing critical or judgmental. It is common for people to deny they have a problem. Remain calm and avoid arguing with the other person.
If you are unsure of how to approach another person you might consider calling the Helpline (0800 787 797) for advice and guidance.
You could encourage the other person to contact the Helpline or any other source of help.
Remember, you cannot fix another person’s problem. They can only achieve that in their own time and for their own reasons. Sometimes fixing the problem requires skilled help. In the meantime you can be a friend or a ‘mate’, provide encouragement to make positive changes to their lifestyle.
Your support as a friend may not be welcomed and you may not always feel appreciated. Your ongoing support will have a positive impact and can increase the chance the other person may seek help.
You are not alone. As a support person you are welcome to call the Helpline for guidance and advice.